PUTTIN MY FOOT DOWN ON SINGLE MOTHERS

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PUTTIN MY FOOT DOWN ON SINGLE MOTHERS

http://www.clutchmagonline.com/2012/02/the-submissive-woman/

http://www.elearners.com/projectworkingmom/about/most-americans-don-t-respect-single-moms/

Missash On Thursday, February 24 2011
I am thrilled that public opinion is turning against single motherhood. It costs taxpayers billions, not because of widowhood, but bad decisions. I am appalled that the idiots on this blog are still trying to promote this fragmented family structure after decades of evidence has concluded how devastating it is to children, communties, and women themselves

DXFISH On Friday, September 10 2010
It's odd how some people don't realize that a relationship is the most important decision you make in your life, and choosing your significant other is something that should be weighed in on with careful consideration.

A lot of people fail to see that you should choose someone not only based off love, but off of commitment, ability to support, and parental background. Those 3 items are far more important than love (or lust particularly), and that seems to have faded from mainstream society's mind. They think that is just some old fashioned way things were done in movies. HELLO PEOPLE, that is how successful and stable families have done things for centuries because that is the best way to ensure a family sticks together.

So, having sympathy for single parents, when one person knew the other person wasn't as committed, or as stable, or never even sat down for dinner with their family, doesn't strike much of a chord with me.

I'm not saying it's not fair, but it certainly is fair that people judge you based off your decisions. Having a broken family does reflect on your decisions, even if the person who left was a loser (after all, you chose the loser to begin with).

Just a thought.


CLASSIC - Natalie Reyes On Friday, September 03 2010
Single Parents work twice as hard and deserve the respect. Its not always our choice to be single parents and still we find the strenght to fight.


EM On Saturday, July 31 2010
Wow! The comments are pretty encouraging and positive. The Single Parent Alliance and Resource Center (SPARC) is proud to work on behalf of single parents. For more information, call 678-253-0162 or visit www.singleparent411.org.

WHERE'S THE HOTLINE FOR UNEMPLOYED AND UNDEREMPLOYED BLACK MEN? YOU'D THINK WE'D WANT TO EDUCATE THE MEN AND GET THEM JOBS SO THEY HAVE NO EXCUSE NOT TO BE IN THE HOME.

OPPS SORRY - I KNOW THAT MAKES TOO MUCH SENSE - BACK TO AMERICAN STUPIDTY


UNREAL! WHY DID U PICK HIM - SEE WOMEN ARE SO AFTER THE FACT http://community.babycenter.com/post/a21971775/putting_my_foot_down

futuremom212010
Posted 03/12/2010
if he doesnt want anything to do w/ the baby ne needs to be kicked out. he's using you. can u imagine him STILL living there AFTER you have the baby???? or whrn he gets a new girlfriend?? he needs to go. also, i'd say unless youre married GIVE BABY YOUR LAST NAME!!
and welcome to the group! i'm typing w/ one hand and holding a sleepy baby in the other arm! so sorry abt the typing mess!

sunshine102
Posted 03/13/2010
Thanks for the replies tonight!
@ justjenna85
I believe that he wants to be a father, and that's fine, but he's doing nothing to prepare for that responsibility. And he dosent seem to understand that just because Im pregnant, does not mean we should be living together, when our romantic relationship is obviously at a stand-still.

@ futuremom212010
I can definitely NOT imagine that!! :) What do you think of a hyphenated last name, mine and his?

SacredSquid
Posted 03/13/2010
Dont hyphenate. Dont give the baby his name at all. Its YOUR baby, he doesnt sound like he's a great guy or anything. If you wouldnt take his last name, dont give it to your baby.

YoyoNYC
Posted 03/14/2010
I was in a similar situation and still am. Without going into details on my situation, it appears you are in a tough situation, as I was. If he does not want to be a part of the baby's life, then you definitely should put him out. I agree with the other comments about giving him a date to leave. However, if he does want to be a part of your child's life (and your life) then you should allow him to stay. But you must set some ground rules - rent, responsibilities, etc.
As for the last name, you still have a while to think about it based on his actions. I am due on April and am still undecided as to whether I will give my daughter his name.

ALLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL THESE BITCHES ARE DUMB - AND CLEARLY THEY WERE NOT SELECTIVE IN THE FATHERS NOR THEIR CHARACTER PRIOR - THEY WILL BE 30 SOMETHING TELLING - MEN LIKE MYSELF - HOW I SHOULD DATE THEM AND HOW THEY "NOW" HAVE STANDARDS BECAUSE THEY HAVE ANOTHER LITTLE PERSON THAT THEY HAVE TO CONSIDER

FUCKIN FACE PALM

Representation of many of the single mothers that exist http://generation-x.net/members/viewVideo.php?video_id=154&;title=Black_Woman_Walking___The_Untold_Story

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30draia

30draia

(1 month ago)

It takes a man and a woman to make a baby. When you make men think they are not responsible for their actions........it makes them weak! That is what TRUELY emasculates a man!

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Chenderson30

Chenderson30

(1 month ago)

Its funny how women talk about putting your foot down on the BM,When these BW invited these men into their vaginas..IT'S YOUR BODY!!YOU HAVE CONTROL OF WHO YOU LET IN YOUR VAGINA..And not to mention there's 11 forms of birth control for women,How come these women aren't using anything..Now I'm all for men wearing condoms,How come women cant wear anything while the man wears a condom???And the women choosed these so-called deaedbeat men..So it's ALL YOUR FAULT!



As to Natalie Reyes comments,"IT IS YOUR CHOICE TO BE A SINGLE MOTHER..IF IT WASN'T ITS CONSIDERED AS RAPE!BUT THESE SITUATIONS ARE CONSIDER TO BE AGREED UPON BY BOTH PARTIES WITH THE WOMAN GIVING ACCESS...SO I DON'T HAVE SYMPATHY FOR THESE WOMEN..SORRY!..LOL

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30draia

30draia

(1 month ago)

Put your foot down on absent fathers! For every single mother, thers's a single father. Simple logic. Men should adrress the ill behaviors of other men!

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Thebigbadwolf

Thebigbadwolf

(1 month ago)

has anyone else noticed the brand spanking new brigade of faceless trolls that have recently arrived on the scene?

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Ssj

Ssj

(1 month ago)

@Tina



I love it. We have a saying on Gen-x, "You give BW enough rope and they will hang themselves everytime." Your post had nothing to do with my last post because it addressed nothing in it. But what it did reveal was your own disrespectful disposition for BM and your own insecurities.

The reason I had to walk away from black community is because the negative bullshit that destroyed it is promoted by BW. Which is why your ass is even on Gen-x, remember Taren Guy's followers were promoting being single mothers.

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Tinamoni

Tinamoni

(1 month ago)

@ssj
"The same motherfuckers that BW claim to be so much better than? The same motherfuckers that CAME OUT OF SINGLE BLACK FEMALE HOUSEHOLDS!? The fucked up individuals of the blakc community use to be fucked up kids and those fucked up kids came from households with just black mothers! So how the fuck is it not the BW's fault for the state of hte black community asshole?!?!"

WOW! Dearheart, why are you so upset at an individual, better yet an ENTIRE community that you admittedly have absolutely nothing to do with? Is it because when you're hanging out with the good ol' white people or whatever race you have unsuccessfully tried to assimilate into, they not so subtlety remind you that you ARE and ALWAYS WILL BE nothing but a "nigger" to them. Oh ok I see "BROTHA". See, because I get that a lot too, especially in my profession. May I offer you some advice? As I sashay to my luxury automobile and flip my long, cascading REAL HAIR, as I go to sign off on my six figure checks...I not so subtlety remind them that "I" am not their tax burden, and in fact some of them just might be mine.

But I suspect in your case, this may be pretty hard to do, when you're standing in the welfare and bread lines with your mulatto children who look like they should be in a "Feed the Children" commercial whilst "proudly" standing beside your obese white "Queen", who in all her lard and ignorance is a trophy in your eyes, simply because she (in your mind) takes you far away from the world you so strongly desire to NOT be a part of. Yet, with all your "motherfuckers" and misuse of the oh so great English language, you appear so much like the "Pookies" and "Ray, Ray's" that you have unsuccessfully tried to distinguish yourself from.

I suggest you go back and find the black woman in your past that has gotten you so irate that you would take what could have been a productive debate into way left field by calling a fellow "commenter" whom you don't know an ASSHOLE. Because while I certainly have one, it is a fine, well groomed one, only touches the best fabrics money can buy, and sits in the best executive chairs your eyes have yet to see, and has a FABULOUS life that "it" and the woman "it" belongs to is living the hell out of.

Last comment from me, so save "ya" breath "BROTHA" :)

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Ssj

Ssj

(1 month ago)

@Tina

"I am not a single mother but I suspect that part of their responses were definitely ignited by the fact that while black women certainly have aspects in which they need to improve, black men also have their own demons that affects black women and the black community. It's true that video and the forum that inspired the video were specifically pertaining to single mothers, but when some of the comments from the video were moving towards seemingly blaming black women or single mothers for ALL or MOST of the problems in the black community, this brought the conversation into new territory."



Do tell. I would love to know what the demons of BM such as myself who don't even date BW, nor do we interact with the negative elements in the black community whether male or female. Are you talking about the Ray Rays and Pookies? The same motherfuckers that BW love so damn much? The same motherfuckers that BW claim to be so much better than? The same motherfuckers that CAME OUT OF SINGLE BLACK FEMALE HOUSEHOLDS!? The fucked up individuals of the blakc community use to be fucked up kids and those fucked up kids came from households with just black mothers! So how the fuck is it not the BW's fault for the state of hte black community asshole?!?! Need I remind you that BW have been proclaiming that they are the "rock, foundation, and backbone" of the black community. Sounds like an admission to me.

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Tinamoni

Tinamoni

(1 month ago)

@ Ssj

I'm not going to really go in any more depth with analyzing that quote in terms of what it means, should mean, or doesn't mean. It has relevance for my life and it's fine if it doesn't really make sense for anyone else in their life or their views on life. I am honestly fine with whatever that "something" is whether it be a quote, a song, an individual, an experience or whatever that motivates and drives a person into action to create a better life for themselves and others.

I think some of the women from the Taren Guy's page were yes probably personally affected by the black men's comments about not wanting to date a single mother. I am in agreement that it is an epidemic in our community and we need to do better in that regard.

I am not a single mother but I suspect that part of their responses were definitely ignited by the fact that while black women certainly have aspects in which they need to improve, black men also have their own demons that affects black women and the black community. It's true that video and the forum that inspired the video were specifically pertaining to single mothers, but when some of the comments from the video were moving towards seemingly blaming black women or single mothers for ALL or MOST of the problems in the black community, this brought the conversation into new territory.

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Ssj

Ssj

(1 month ago)

@Tinamoni

"I think I actually misquoted that quote, it really goes "when you know better, you OUGHT to do better" M. Angelou."



That is STILL a false statement especially in regards to the black community. It completely ignores the fact that subscribers to Taren Guy came over here to Gen-x to vent at BM who will NOT choose single mothers. And to make matters worse given the context of your quote is the fact that BW have been trying to normalize their dysfunctional behavior for 50 years and nothing has changed. The reason that they want BM to co-sign getting with single mtohers is because the vast majority of black females are single mothers now. The dynamics of the black community have completely changed and BW are trying to make that the new standard. The very fact that they are trying to claim having out of wedlock kids is a "blessing" should already tell you everything you need to know about the mindset of BW. If they knew better then they would not be continuing the cycle AND praising the new low standard. Like Sarge said being a single mom in the black community is now the stadard to meet in order to get your medal. So why should BW "ought to do better?"

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Missash On Thursday, February 24 2011
I am thrilled that public opinion is turning against single motherhood. It costs taxpayers billions, not because of widowhood, but bad decisions. I am appalled that the idiots on this blog are still trying to promote this fragmented family structure after decades of evidence has concluded how devastating it is to children, communties, and women themselves

DXFISH On Friday, September 10 2010
It's odd how some people don't realize that a relationship is the most important decision you make in your life, and choosing your significant other is something that should be weighed in on with careful consideration.

A lot of people fail to see that you should choose someone not only based off love, but off of commitment, ability to support, and parental background. Those 3 items are far more important than love (or lust particularly), and that seems to have faded from mainstream society's mind. They think that is just some old fashioned way things were done in movies. HELLO PEOPLE, that is how successful and stable families have done things for centuries because that is the best way to ensure a family sticks together.

So, having sympathy for single parents, when one person knew the other person wasn't as committed, or as stable, or never even sat down for dinner with their family, doesn't strike much of a chord with me.

I'm not saying it's not fair, but it certainly is fair that people judge you based off your decisions. Having a broken family does reflect on your decisions, even if the person who left was a loser (after all, you chose the loser to begin with).

Just a thought.


CLASSIC - Natalie Reyes On Friday, September 03 2010
Single Parents work twice as hard and deserve the respect. Its not always our choice to be single parents and still we find the strenght to fight.


EM On Saturday, July 31 2010
Wow! The comments are pretty encouraging and positive. The Single Parent Alliance and Resource Center (SPARC) is proud to work on behalf of single parents. For more information, call 678-253-0162 or visit www.singleparent411.org.

WHERE'S THE HOTLINE FOR UNEMPLOYED AND UNDEREMPLOYED BLACK MEN? YOU'D THINK WE'D WANT TO EDUCATE THE MEN AND GET THEM JOBS SO THEY HAVE NO EXCUSE NOT TO BE IN THE HOME.

OPPS SORRY - I KNOW THAT MAKES TOO MUCH SENSE - BACK TO AMERICAN STUPIDTY


UNREAL! WHY DID U PICK HIM - SEE WOMEN ARE SO AFTER THE FACT http://community.babycenter.com/post/a21971775/putting_my_foot_down

futuremom212010
Posted 03/12/2010
if he doesnt want anything to do w/ the baby ne needs to be kicked out. he's using you. can u imagine him STILL living there AFTER you have the baby???? or whrn he gets a new girlfriend?? he needs to go. also, i'd say unless youre married GIVE BABY YOUR LAST NAME!!
and welcome to the group! i'm typing w/ one hand and holding a sleepy baby in the other arm! so sorry abt the typing mess!

sunshine102
Posted 03/13/2010
Thanks for the replies tonight!
@ justjenna85
I believe that he wants to be a father, and that's fine, but he's doing nothing to prepare for that responsibility. And he dosent seem to understand that just because Im pregnant, does not mean we should be living together, when our romantic relationship is obviously at a stand-still.

@ futuremom212010
I can definitely NOT imagine that!! :) What do you think of a hyphenated last name, mine and his?

SacredSquid
Posted 03/13/2010
Dont hyphenate. Dont give the baby his name at all. Its YOUR baby, he doesnt sound like he's a great guy or anything. If you wouldnt take his last name, dont give it to your baby.

YoyoNYC
Posted 03/14/2010
I was in a similar situation and still am. Without going into details on my situation, it appears you are in a tough situation, as I was. If he does not want to be a part of the baby's life, then you definitely should put him out. I agree with the other comments about giving him a date to leave. However, if he does want to be a part of your child's life (and your life) then you should allow him to stay. But you must set some ground rules - rent, responsibilities, etc.
As for the last name, you still have a while to think about it based on his actions. I am due on April and am still undecided as to whether I will give my daughter his name.

ALLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL THESE BITCHES ARE DUMB - AND CLEARLY THEY WERE NOT SELECTIVE IN THE FATHERS NOR THEIR CHARACTER PRIOR - THEY WILL BE 30 SOMETHING TELLING - MEN LIKE MYSELF - HOW I SHOULD DATE THEM AND HOW THEY "NOW" HAVE STANDARDS BECAUSE THEY HAVE ANOTHER LITTLE PERSON THAT THEY HAVE TO CONSIDER

FUCKIN FACE PALM

Representation of many of the single mothers that exist http://generation-x.net/members/viewVideo.php?video_id=154&;title=Black_Woman_Walking___The_Untold_Story